<This post has been revised and slightly updated from it’s original publication on January 1st 2017 – to appropriately reflect the current year, 2019; This along with an additional wrinkle added at the end that was not put in the original post >
From listening to a number of excellent Podcasts this past year, one – The Tim Ferriss Show; http://fourhourworkweek.com/podcast/, a few of his lessons stuck with me in particular.
My biggest take away (in my own words) – ***”You are basically the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with” ***. In other words, those you spend the most time with, influence you the most. Choose wisely.
To flesh it out even more: Meaning My biggest takeaways/interpretations.
If there are certain goals you want to achieve in life and you are not quite there in some areas but doing great in other areas, take a look at the people you surround yourself with.
5 points to consider:
1- Are the people you spend the most time with in healthy relationships? IE – a good marriage/partnership, surrounded by friends that bring out the best in them.
2- Are the people you surround yourself with successful? This could be interpreted in a number of ways, so here are a few examples: Do the people you surround yourself with have financial security to a level they are good with? Are they living a lifestyle they find satisfaction and fulfillment in? Are they in a career they love or at least working on projects that they are really passionate about?
3- Do the people you surround yourself with work on themselves? IE – physical conditioning, spiritual and mental well-being, intellectual curiosity.
4 – Are the the people you surround yourself with, kind? IE -How forgiving are they of themselves? How forgiving are they of others? Do they look for the best in themselves and others?
5- Do you see yourself in the people you surround yourself with? Do you want to see yourself in them? Do you like what you see?
This is something (meaning the people I surround myself with) I’m going to pay very close attention to and be very pro-active with in 2019, I invite you to do the same.
***For the record Tim Ferriss would be the first to tell you he is not the original founder of this idea/rule! He actually discovered this concept as a teenager (as is described here in this article. https://www.businessinsider.com/tim-ferriss-average-of-five-people-2017-1.)
I’m presuming, based on the context of the article, that Tim Ferriss originally read it in one of Tony Robbins’ books (Tony Robbins one of the most pre-eminent self-help gurus in the world, today). And Tony Robbins learned of this rule through his mentor early in life, by motivational speaker and entrepreneur, Jim Rohn***.
So, if this is the first time you have heard of this concept, now at least you know a bit of the origins of it.
PS -If you enjoyed this post, and want to learn more about Tim Ferriss from my writings, I invite you to visit this piece to learn more about one of the most recent books he published – https://joshoffthepress.com/2017/01/26/the-5-books-i-have-gifted-the-most/.
I also invite you to visit this piece – https://joshoffthepress.com/2017/02/28/encyclopedia-of-the-podcasts-i-have-listened-to/ , to see a list of my favorite podcast episodes through early 2017, some of which have Tim Ferris prominently mentioned.
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